Anthony Uckele convicted

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I originally posted about Anthony Uckele here. He’s the 24-year-old from Saratoga, California who was facing 36 charges for a sexual ‘relationship’ he had with a 12-year-old girl he met on MySpace.

Well, it seems that Mr. Uckele has been convicted of 20 of those charges. On the remaining 15 charges, the jury was deadlocked. So now Uckele is only looking at 46 years behind bars rather than the 78 he could have received. He is scheduled to be sentenced on February 29th.

What’s almost disturbing as Uckele himself is the number of people posting comments not only on this site but at the newspaper’s site that blame the 12-year-old victim. You people have issues and I wouldn’t be surprised if you had certain criminal sexual leanings yourself.

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18 responses to “Anthony Uckele convicted”

December 30, 2007

shadehg

Blaming the victim! That’s so sick and sad, because in the end, no matter what, she’s still only 12! A child! And he, in the end, no matter what is still a child molester!

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December 30, 2007

Bay

I agree it is Not the victim who needs blamed it is HIM and that girls parents.
Frankly I think some charges should be brought against them or they be made to pay a fine.
Then again I think that should be the case in most cases like this because until parents are MADE to parent these kids it will continue.
Just too many cases like this and parents still sitting in the dark thinking it can never happen to mine.

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December 31, 2007

Dan

Why would people believe a 12-year-old could “consent” when presumably they do not believe a 9 year-old-who was talked into something gross “consented?” I think we all know by now that children of all ages rarely ever run screaming and kicking when sexually assaulted. They feel profound shame and suffer in deep personal silence for a very long time. Grown ups have too much power over them.

So how does anyone think 12 or 14-year-olds can consent? I think it has to do with signs of sexual maturity. Some cranky, tempestuous snot has to start wearing a bra and suddenly she’s on her own, deserves whatever she gets. Note to future parents: If you are not ready to love and protect a cranky, tempestuous snot for several years, get a pet instead.

Reality check. Healthy 12 year olds swallow hot peppers or marbles or worms on dares. They fib to see what they can get away with. They run away. They do things so stupid it boggles the mind. When we yell at them, we PRETEND they’re responsible so they can experience growth-inducing discomfort and struggle. But we are ultimately responsible for everything a 12-year-old does. They’re nuts. That’s their job at 12 and 14, hopefully less so at 16 but not necessarily. Innocent by reason of insanity.

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January 1, 2008

cj

ok all you people blame the boy u know all the details she lied and told him she was 17 y old so make sure u blast her forsome of the resposibilty too people lie about there ages all the time

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January 1, 2008

Jae

Um, yeah. The kid said she was seventeen? Then the guy gets the super idiot award for not being able to tell the difference between a /twelve/ year old and /seventeen/ year old. Besides, what business would a twenty-four year old man have with chasing after someone who’s seventeen? Still counts as creep-tastic.

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January 1, 2008

Samantha

I personally think child molesters should be tarred and feathered and boiled in oil and then perhaps dipped in acid (just for starters).

HOWEVER, it is not surprising to me that there seems to be a rise in the amount of cases being reported because of the pre-teens and teens dressing much older and sluttier than they ever should be. It gives the sick individuals who are already predisposed to liking little girls the wrong idea.

I&rsquom not saying that the 12 year old in this case wore inappropriate clothing, or that that is the only reason why she ended up having a relationship with the 24 year old guy. But I think we can give at least some blame to the parents for not being attentive enough to catch this and a little to the 12 year old who should know better.

The most blame should be given to the pervert who was &lsquodating&rsquo her. 17 or 12, she was still underage. Period.

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January 1, 2008

Jae

Absolutely the parents need to shoulder resonsibility for not knowing what their kid was up to.

But again twelve is different from seventeen in more ways than slutty clothes and lots of make-up. It’s attitude and behavior. A twenty-four year old man should have been able to ‘spot’ those differences in an instant. He’s a sick bastard.

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January 2, 2008

Chuck D.

She lied about her age? Quite simply, I say “sucks for him”…he’s the adult and should’ve been able to tell the difference, especially since 5 years is a significant gap.

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January 2, 2008

Dan

Guys, let’s be honest here. We know a young girl when we see and talk to one, no matter how developed and overtly sexual she is. If you’re 22, you have no reason to be with a 16 year old high school student let alone a middle schooler. They’re attractive because they have not yet learned what users men can be. There’s no wariness, just eagerness to please and excitement about intense new attention. Guys like this need to go to children because girls their own age won’t take their bullshit attitudes and treament.

Guys need to resist the pressure that says it’s manly to be users and predators, see who you can consume. Such bullshit. I am so deeply, personally angered that men like this perpetuate the supposed underlying truth that men are dick-driven, innocence-consuming dogs. Females are not consumables.

It’s still healthiest and safest to cultivate relationships. Girls, demand them. A hookup does not speak to your desirability or worth. You don’t need to play their game. Demand better for yourself and males will have to cut the crap.

And we all need to rally around these teens, ask our “slutty” 14 year old niece or neighbor how her art class is going, tell our smack-talking young nephew we were proud of some intelligent comment he made. Pay attention to them. They are not competent to run a whole culture without adult intervention, but that’s exactly what they’re doing.

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January 2, 2008

Bootyj

Dan – You have made some extremely intellegent and thought provoking comments, I applaud you. My 12 year old son had a boy-girl Halloween party, it just amazed me how we had like 5 12-13 year old girls that looked and acted like little girls, and yet another group of girls that acted like 16-17 year old girls, I never, never thought while I was planning this party that I would have to break up 12 year olds making out – not my son, but a kid I knew well (I was 15 before I ever made out with a guy), it sent me into this huge reality check that told me that my little boy is not little anymore and that no matter how internet/world savy he or I think he is (sorry couldnt think of another way to word that), that he is just a little boy and girls are just as bad. They need constant supervision. My son will believe everything he reads on the internet as truth (like myspace bulletins) – dont worry, I monitor is myspace. So anyways, sorry for the rambling, the one thing I have told my son since he went through sex-ed is that “do not let your dick do your thinking for you, no matter how good it feels, how much you think you want it you have got to think of the long term consequences for your actions, just stop and think what will be the outcome of my actions”, hopefully If I can keep pounding that into his brain I wont have to worry about him becoming a teenage Dad, or worse.

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January 6, 2008

Dan

Bootyj, wow, nice work. Interesting thing, 12 year olds do not get out of making out what 17 year olds do. 17 year olds usually get mostly pleasure and intimacy. 12 year olds rarely experience any of that. Rather, when they like it, they get status, daring and attention, and when they don’t like it they feel dirty, icky, defective, and often desensitized and confused about not liking it.

What 12 year olds should and do find sexually exciting is sitting close to an interesting peer, clicking with that person, small “accidental touches,” fledgling flirtations. I tell all my guys and girls, the hand holders are the best lovers when they become adults. Just ask a college girl or guy.

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January 6, 2008

Dan

Oh, of course we hold the 12 year old responsible! She made bad decisions. She gets her internet yanked, freedoms curtailed, less freedom until she’s a little older. Of course, the sheer icky grossness of coming face to face with grown man who wants and and hopes to bang you is pretty damn enormous repurcussion and cautionary experience. I’m sure the fear has changed her.

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February 2, 2008

Nana

I think you guys are so stupid, 12 yrs old is 12 yrs old, a child. For all of you that say yeah she lied about her age but should that matter anyways even if she was 17 yrs old that is still illegal. So no matter what he was still in the wrong wether he thought she was 17 or knew she was 12. He and all sex offendors should be tourted anyone that can touch a child like that is sick in the head and needs to be locked away.

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February 2, 2008

Nana

Dan~~~~
r u serious????? How can we hold a 12 year old child responsible. You probably have the same predator sendrome. YOU SICKO

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February 3, 2008

Nana

Dan~~~~
r u serious????? How can we hold a 12 year old child responsible. You probably have the same predator sendrome. YOU SICKO

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February 21, 2008

Laurie

If the 12 year old does not get help and change her behavior, she will do it again. She should be held accountable – she needs help and guidance in order to make the necessary changes and develop the understanding that all people are not trustworthy and what it means to be a sexual being. Some how young girls need to understand that some men will jump through hoops to commit this crime, and that you never put ourself in that kind of position with someone you don’t know, where they can take you somewhere you ultimately may not want to be.

But, this is such a difficult job, because many people that we trust are sexually abusing kids. It’s hard to be a parent.

Maintaining your boundaries are elementary lessons that need to be refined to hold a young teen’s interest.

Obviously, the adult male is responsible for his behavior.

At this point, blame doesn’t matter, treatment does. Years of follow-up, because without help, both these people will have difficulties, not to mention the families of both the victim and offender.

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March 23, 2008

unknown

come on now people 12 year olds know what they are doing. she was not a virgin and her parents were so not around even in the court room. her dad was drunk passed out on the couch when this was taking place. her mom wasnt even in the picture. i was once 12 and i knew what i was doing i put myself on the pill at 13 and married that same guy @ 20. bottom line granet she was young and he knew better but this sentence is way wrong….44 years this man is getting and it is not right….she had him sneek in her house for gods sake!!!! she knew what she was doing and when he wanted to end it she choise to then tell daddy…

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March 23, 2008

Chuck D.

Doesn’t matter what this girl did/didn’t do, he knew the risks of getting involved w/an underage girl, yet still went ahead w/it…besides, he should’ve known the difference between 17 and 12, as if it wasn’t readily apparent.

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