Anthony Uckele

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Right now 24-year-old Anthony Uckele of Saratoga, California is facing 36 counts of lewd conduct that could put him behind bars for 78 years.

He was arrested back in October 2005 for having sex with a 12-year-old girl that he met on MySpace. They’re trying the ‘she said she was 16’ defense but his actions betray him.

The girl with the blue stuffed animal – a cloth-covered cat that she hugged closely to her chest – said she called Uckele after reading his first message and agreed to meet him at a Starbucks near her home in Willow Glen. From there, he took her to a video arcade and a park, a pattern they would repeat several times over a period of a few weeks.

As early as their second meeting – and a few weeks before they had sexual intercourse – the girl said she told Uckele she was 12 and he said he was 22.

When he drove her home, Uckele dropped her off a block from her house because they knew her father wouldn’t approve of their age difference, the girl testified. Uckele also warned the girl not to tell any of her friends about him, “because he was too old.”

Eventually, she said, Uckele persuaded her to sneak out of her father’s house at night and meet him a block away. The girl testified that Uckele drove her to his mother’s home in Saratoga, where he persuaded her to undress in his bedroom and have intercourse.

“I was scared. It was something I wasn’t used to,” she testified in a low voice. “He said, ‘It’s going to be OK. Nothing bad is going to happen.’ ”

After more encounters over the next several months, the girl read about sexual abuse in a library book and decided to tell someone who notified police, Shore said. But before authorities arrested Uckele, they arranged to record a telephone conversation between the pair.

On the recording, which Shore played in court, the girl said several times that she felt it was wrong for them to have had sex.

“OK. I didn’t force you to do anything,” Uckele replied. “If you tell someone, I’m going away to prison for 10 years. You’ll ruin my life.”

And let’s not forget that the age of consent in California is 18, not 16. D’oh. Not only that but now Uckele is facing a lot more than 10 years. And your life should be ruined since you ruined that little girl’s life.

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26 responses to “Anthony Uckele”

November 29, 2007

Paulina

I hope they throw the book at him. Mutant.

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December 6, 2007

Charly

Anthony was my friend. Hes not a bad guy and I love him. He made poor choices but he didnt ruin that girls life. He didnt rape her. Underage is underage but not 78 years!! 10,15,maybe 20 but he had good things going for him. He was a loner and kind of mixed up upstairs but he didnt mean any harm. You are a bunch of heartless assholes! That girl took this overboard and so did the government. 78 fucking years I cant believe it!!

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December 24, 2007

Anon

Maybe he just should have killed her? He’d get a lighter sentence.

I think it’s way past time they did away with consent laws for anyone 12 and over since so many of them are willingly having sex.

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December 24, 2007

Dan

12 year olds can’t have sex “willingly.” They must be talked into it. Groomed, coaxed, flattered, have their actual feelings twisted and interpretted for them. 12 year olds don’t enjoy sex with adults. It scares them, makes them feel dirty and degraded. “Gross” is what they say every time. What they like is attention most of all. And they like to experiemnt with what it feels like to be big grown girls and boys. They like adventure and drama.

Here’s how it works. 12 year old thinks she’s a big girl, mature beyond her years and special. She’s a woman but people just can’t see it. Well, except that men sneak peeks at her boobs. So some guy on the internet sees her as a woman, wants to go get coffee. Ooh, so grown up! Coffee at Starbucks. Mommy doesn’t even let her drink coffee because mommy wants to keep her a baby FOREVER! She wants to go sit with this young man, have people look at her, pretend she likes coffee, maybe even have a school friend see her and she can say: oh yes, I was on a date, Starbucks Mochachinos are simply heavenly. She’s playing. She still secretly plays dolls. But once the adult has her in his thrall, she has no chance. She knows she’s made a very big mistake, but he’s so beguiling, so convincing, she owes him, she’s a woman, she made promises, he loves her, theirs is a great love affair, teases are reprehensible, real woman don’t chicken out and cry to mommy…… Children cannot stand up to grown ups. Children get talked into sexual activities they detest because they’ve already come to understand that they are less, degraded, entitled to much less than others. Children get talked into sex they can barely tolerate, then spend the rest of their lives feeling nasty about themselves.

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December 27, 2007

Alessa

i bet she’s a slutty 12 years old, kids these days are getting skankier, fucking slut, and fucking pedophile.. both at fault, i don’t think he should be put behind bar for the rest of his life, and she should not pretend to be so victimized fucking slut.

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December 31, 2007

Chuck D.

Yeah, blame the victim…even if she was acting promiscuous, statutory’s statutory, and Ueckle paid the price for it. Besides, they nearly slashed his sentence in half, so it’s not like he’ll be serving the maximum penalty for his crime.

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December 31, 2007

Dan

Alessa, you’re a kid, right? Did you know that “acting slutty” at too young an age is a strong signal to therapists that a child has already been molested or hurt in a sexual way at a young age? It makes us very sad to see “promiscuous” kids because someone taught them they are sexual trash cans at an age far too young.

When you see someone of any age who appears to rely solely on sexual attention to feel good about themselves, the proper, generous, mature response is to have compassion and hope they learn to feel good about themselves for real reasons.

Girls like this 12-year-old need strong girlfriends to show them their value beyond pleasing men. Alessa, you’re not wrong to be so angry, but be angry at them men who’ve hurt her. And if you know a child like this, you could help her feel valuable instead of helping prove she’s human trash.

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December 31, 2007

Dan

It’s true, 22-year-olds can be pretty damn immature, especially when their sex drive is doing the thinking for them. That’s why such tremendous social stigma and repurcussions like lengthy jail terms are common knowledge, to help young idiots make good decisons.

Being attracted to someone so much younger in that age category is a form of pedophilia more properly called hebephelia. Being attracted to someone too young for sex and sexually undeveloped has a lot to do with having so much more power than the child. When this attraction is acted on, it is entirely predatory in nature because of the power difference. It cannot be otherwise given the vulnerability of children. 12 is very young. 12 year olds still secretly play with dolls. Yes, even modern kids.

Predators rarely have what they would consider “malicious intent.” They wrap themselves in protective justifications about the sensual nature of children and loving children. In fact, pedophiles systematically reinforce this idea of loving children and extend it into sexual behavior. It is incredibly damaging to children, always. But the adult sex drive is a powerful thing and pedophila is a mental disorder.

I wish young people like this 22 year old could get help before they so profoundly damage children. I agree that once they have chosen to act in violence against a child (which is what sex with a 12 year old is) they are villians. But our society looks at this disorder as so evil that people rarely seek treatment. They have to offend to be discovered, and the children they violate carry that damage with them their entire lives, sometimes becoming offenders themselves. I wish we could be kinder to pedophiles who have chosen not to offend or financially support child porn. I wish we could find a way for young people with these deviant attractions to seek help. Chances are they were hurt too. We know therapy with adult men who have offended is rarely effective, sometimes even with “chemical castration.” But what about intervening with a 16 year old who has these feelings? Who knows? Maybe we could begin to staunch this apparently growing terror of predation of children.

We have to get the truth out. Sexual behavior, even sex talk, permanently damages children, always. Pedophilia is not about loving children, it is a damaged, faulty sexual response that can and should be resisted. Pedophiles are not evil until they choose to violate a child or financially support child porn. Until then, they’re just hurt people who deserve intervention. And no matter what our hypersexed society professes, sex isn’t everything. You don’t have to gratify sexual urges. If you love children, you protect their little developing selves. People aren’t ready for sex until they are adults.

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December 31, 2007

Dan

Actually, I really connect with David’s message of compassion. I find a lot of common misperceptions are at work in people. People often think that once a child has some physical sexual characteristics, they can make adult decisions. Truth is, no one under 16 should ever have intercourse or even come close. Probably that should be 18, but people begin to develop differently after that. I’ve heard lots of 19 and 20 year olds say they weren’t ready. And maybe some 16 year olds can handle it in an exploratory way with someone their own age and experience, though I tend to doubt it.

It’s very hard to get across to people why a 14 year old can’t “consent.” Can an 8 year old? You can talk an 8 year old and a 14 year old into just about anything, I guarantee. Is that consent?

Another misperception is that pedophiles always have evil intentions. Really their disorder, and often these days the support and misinformation they can find online for their delusional justifications, helps them cultivate a belief system that tells them they love kids. After all, who can deny that 12 and 13 year olds are compulsively curious about sex? What pedophiles need to know is that curiosity about sex and sexual behavior is not to be confused with true sexual readiness. They are the baby steps toward sexual readiness that will develop over the course of the teen years. Teens cannot and should not have sex with adults, ever. That’s predatory and violent, an abuse of power. 12 year old boys and girls need to make sex jokes with each other. That in no way means they should see porn or your genitals. I mean it. It is never, ever ok. Sex with adults always hurts kids.

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December 31, 2007

David

Please don’t think that just because a 22 year old guy and a 12 year old hookup that there was necessarily malicious intent. Some 22 year old guys aren’t a whole lot smarter than 18 year old guys in terms of emotional development, and its easy for them to believe that a girl that age can and does want sex…particularly if she was already sexually abused.

So assuming this guy thought with the wrong head, he’s now paying the price for the abuse this girl was previously subjected to. I agree with Dan that a 12 year old girl doesn’t want sex…the first time. But after that, it isn’t uncommon for them to act out sexually to get positive attention.

I wish there were a way to prosecute these cases based on the actual harm caused to the victim. Unfortunately, its impossible to know something like that.

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January 1, 2008

Chuck D.

David and Dan, right on the money, both of you…we need more “voices of reason” like yourselves to set people who always try to defend the perps and demonize the victims, straight…I, for one, have heard it all before and am getting pretty damn tired of it.

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January 2, 2008

David

Dan, agreed. Sex with adults always hurts kids. 100%. I do, however, take issue with your assertion that treatment “rarely” helps offenders. Statistics vary widely by offender gender, age, type of offense, gender of victim, and willingness to be treated. We shouldn’t simply write off treatment because it fails some. Much in the same way drug treatment is often ineffective, so is sex offender treatment. It is still an important step to reduce the overall impact of such abuse on society. It is also much cheaper than long term incarceration and sex offender registration/tracking programs.

Despite your early clarification of the term “pedophile”, I still take issue with the use of this term – particularly regarding treatment. Those who harbor exclusive attraction to pre-pubescent children (pedophiles) have a lower rate of success in treatment than those who are attracted to post-pubescents.

Discussion of treatment aside though, I seriously think that if we had better education about sex and the law in our high school sex ed programs we may prevent many of these types of cases. If there were more discussion about the emotional and psychological state of underage girls/boys, paying particular attention to cases of prior abuse, then many of these young men and women may never run afoul of the law. An ounce of prevention would go along way to preventing these issues. We tell our 14, and 15 year old kids that if they have sex they can get pregnant or catch Chlamydia, but we often fail to mention to them that sex at that age is illegal, and can land them on a sex offender registry for life.

Those who truly do have deviant sexual attractions SHOULD be able to seek help without fear of jail or social exile. The same way a drug addict can seek help for an addiction, someone with a child porn problem should be able to seek help for that issue, before he acts on that particular fantasy. For that matter, I think there should be public service announcements on TV to help people who are addicted to porn, but I digress 🙂

Sensible discussion and academic examination of these issues is the only way to come to helpful solutions in this issue. Knee-jerk legislative (re)action only gets us so far.

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March 23, 2008

unknown

anthony is and will always be my friend and i am sick and the outcome of this. this 12 year old girl was not a virgin and had done it many times prior to anthony not to mention she has been hospitalized befor for mental illness. this system is sick. a woman beats her baby to death and get off with a year in jail and probation and here we have this case. im sick and because this girl got her heart brocken cuz he deside to end the realationship after finding out her age she get him back and tells daddy,,,bullshit,,,

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March 23, 2008

Chuck D.

Too bad about your buddy, but if he hadn’t gotten involved w/an underage girl in the first place, he wouldn’t be where he is now.

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March 23, 2008

Laurie

Chuck D. – If this 22 year old did not get involved with the 12 year old, underage girl, he would not be in prison.

How true. But, the 12 year old needs to be held accountable as well. What about her parents?
This young girl was meeting him for weeks? How can that be?

As David said in earlier posts, we tell kids about the dangers of sexual disease (some schools or parents do not even do that) but yet we do not tell them it is illegal and they could go to jail, or their ‘offender’ could go to jail.

A 12 year old who has sex for the first time, and has been ‘groomed’ as this girl was, will seek out this type of relationship, again and again, unless she receives the desperately needed treatment required to turn this around. Oh – and did I mention the parents? They need help to – they need to keep a very close eye on their teenager. Teenagers need more monitoring than a 2 year old in many situations. Monitoring at a distance, but they still need that intervention from their parents.

Chances are this girl is seeking out attention that she has not been receiving, and needs some positive activities in her life that do not involve sex until she is informed and mature enough to handle the consequences and has an understanding of the bigger picture.

I also agree that some 22 year old males are as immature as young girls that they seek out to have sex with. Some may feel uncomfortable with women their own age – that does not mean there is something wrong with them, it just means they have not had the guidance they should have received.

Not to excuse what this young man has done, but there must be a better way. The better way being us as a society no longer holding tight to the puritan past, and instead acknowledging that we humans are sexual beings, and what that means. Instead we choose not to openly discuss or teach about sensuality, spirituality and sexuality, and many misguided youth and adults go underground with their feelings and urges, which creates and supports perversion. We should be discussing this with kids that are young, BEFORE events like this occur, and prepare them for these kinds of decisions. Obviously, this is not what happens.

We all know how hosed up our society is, we are in such a state of denial. Especially where this subject is concerned. We splash it all over the place, yet we refuse to deal with it in a healthy manner.

He did not troll the internet for several young woman – this young girl was the only one? That does not make him a predator, in my mind, it makes him a stupid man.

But, we promote stupid men committing stupid sex acts. Look at our illustrious President Clinton. Look at Gov Spitzer….look at the State Legislators. No sex scandals there huh? Where is the punishment? Where are the consequences? It seems there are none – and us stupid women stand behind these men!!! Even more revolting!!!!

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March 26, 2008

Vanessa

I know Anthony, he was always a little weird, but arent we all? I also agree about how parents are not keeping a close eye on their kids nowadays, they are becoming more sexual at a younger age. They are both at fault and they both should be under close eye. I dont think Anthony should have that much time behind bars, but definetly be punished. To the parents of the little girl: You’re morons, she is too young be be online unsupervised.

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April 8, 2008

The Motey

And to Laurie, and all of you other enablers, a 12 year old child cannot be held accountable for having been groomed and raped by an adult.

You are sadly, an ignorant person that has no real concept of the rule of law, no concept of what true justice is. I hope for your sake it never happens to someone you love.

Laurie said “Not to excuse what this young man has done, but there must be a better way. The better way being us as a society no longer holding tight to the puritan past, and instead acknowledging that we humans are sexual beings, and what that means. Instead we choose not to openly discuss or teach about sensuality…(blah, blah, blah… baby-raper enabler rhetoric, ad nauseum)”

Yes, I believe you are trying to excuse his behavior, where there is no excuse, none at all. For an adult in this day and age, in our society to have sex with a pre-pubescent or barely pubescent child is in exscusable. Period. End of story. Have a nice day.

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April 8, 2008

unknown

hey chuck….get it right he wasnt 44,,,u might want to proff read and re read the story,,,,
he was 21 when this happened,,,for god sake,,,they were both there but her parrents werent,,,and she sneeked him in,,,,she not him she knew better,,,please i was 12 once ,,,

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April 8, 2008

The Motey

The pedophile always wears the mask of normalcy. The pedophile always seems like a good guy to its friends and family. They have never seen its true nature. They have never seen it without its mask on.

A 22 year old that sexually desires a child of the age of 12 is not ‘immature’, it is a pedophile. I hope they can all be caught and entered into the system at such a young age. This judge has saved countless children down through the next 44 years of this particular pedophile’s life.

It would have left a trail of countless victims over the course of that time otherwise. All of you that cannot see this are utterly blind to truth. Utterly blind to the fact that irreparable harm has been done to this 12 year old child. She will always carry the mark of this with her. All the way into and through her adult life to the very end.

I wish her peace and understanding, and for the pedophile? Only cold hard metal beds for it for the next 16,000 days. Only subsistence level meals, and hard work. For it, only humiliation for the rest of it’s miserable child-raping life.

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April 8, 2008

unknown

yes the whole thing was wrong by all means,,,however 44 years is wrong too,,,granet he knew what he was doing and should of known better but looking at the whole picture she too knew better,,,,being once 12 myself i knew better and put myself on the pill at that age,,kids now days are growing up way to fast and missing out on being a kid,,,i think her parents and all parents need to take a better look at there children,,,,i am a mom of a 18 year old daughter i installed morals and values for her to make good choices and today my daughter is a virgin mananging a safeway and a full time student,,,, she respects herself and her body being a virgin at her age is a beautiful thing,,,my son is the age of the girl of this story and i know that my son has enough parental guidence to know better than to sneek someone he met off the internet into r home,,,bottom line it was wrong on both and both new better,,,44 years is bullshit,,

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April 8, 2008

unknown

this 12 year old was not a virgin!!!! she had done it many times he was not her first,,,WHERE ARE HER PARENTS!?!? THEY WERENT EVEN IN THE COURT ROOM…for the love of god it was wrong for sure but 44 years? when we have woman beating there babies to death and get less time,,,please,,,parents of a 12 year old are responsible for there childrens actions,,,

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April 8, 2008

Chuck D.

Doesn’t matter whether or not she was a virgin…he’s a 44YO man, for God’s sake, and should’ve known better than to get involved w/an underage girl.

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April 8, 2008

charly

He was not 44! I love the game of telephone! he was 22 i think hes 25 now. youre an idiot..im 23 i lost my virginity at 11 and slept with guys ranging from 13-33 in my teenage years. I dont blame any one of them. I blame my parents for not being around or talking to me about sex. I didnt go send any of them to jail. why? I did it too. Anthony had mental problems and i told him not to be fucking with underage gitls. he was VERY immature.. Im so mad at him he was about to graduate and start going to school in San Diego and now hes locked up. Thats why Im mad at him. so is there a difference between 11 and 17? just the fact that 11 and 1 year olds arent being controlled by there parents and knowing where theyre going! They are both to blame!

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April 8, 2008

Chuck D.

So I goofed on his age, big deal…doesn’t change the fact that he still broke the law and should’ve known better than to accept her advances. And unless she was holding a gun to his head, it’s not like he was being forced to do anything…he knew what he was getting into, and now he’s reaping the fruits of his decision.

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April 9, 2008

Chuck D.

The law doesn’t make exceptions based on consent…statutory’s statutory, whether the girl went willingly or not. 44 years may be harsh, but being the adult in this situation, Uckele should’ve known better and considered the possible consequences.

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April 9, 2008

unknown

yes u r right,,,he should of known better,,,it’s just a shame that she lied about her age and after he broke up with her prior to finding out her age he gets 44 years…sad story…he was just excepted into san deigo state,,,very sad,,,for everyone,,,

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