Jon Erik Frisvold

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28-year-old Jon Erik Frisvold of Larksville, Pa. was arrested this week for allegedly sexually assaulting a 15-year-old girl in his house on multiple occasions. It’s not known how Frisvold knew the girl but he used MySpace to stay in contact with her.

The level of his alleged creepiness knows no bounds…

Frisvold told the girl to go to his bedroom and wait for him. He asked her to have sex and said to her: “It will be good for you and it will be good for me,” according to the criminal complaint.

The girl said she removed her shirt and pants but told Frisvold to stop because it hurt. Frisvold continued to attempt to have sex with the girl but stopped.

Frisvold drove the girl home telling her not to tell anyone, the criminal complaint says.

Sometime in October or November 2006, the girl said Frisvold contacted her by telephone and on myspace.com. After a conversation, he picked her up at the West Wyoming store and drove around the Back Mountain before returning to his residence with her.

He asked her to have sex, but the girl said no. He continued to ask her to have sex when she agreed.

After a brief encounter, the girl told him to stop. They got dressed and drove to a cafe in Wyoming.

In January, Frisvold again contacted the girl on the telephone and on myspace.com. He picked her up at the West Wyoming store, drove around in the Back Mountain and took her to his residence where he sexually assaulted her, the criminal complaint says.

A month later, Frisvold contacted the girl again on the telephone and on myspace.com. He told the girl he was bored and picked her up at the store in West Wyoming, and took her back to his residence where he assaulted her, police said in the criminal complaint.

Frisvold was released on $25K bail. I wonder if he’ll pull a Shefelbine.

I really hope that the kid in his profile pic isn’t his.

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71 responses to “Jon Erik Frisvold”

November 3, 2007

Kenny

First comment. All I have to say is that Frisvold is a bastard who deserves whatever he gets. That is all.

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November 5, 2007

Bay

I have to agree what a crude ball this guy should get all they can give him.

At the same time I have to, and NO I am not blaming the victim, but at what point does this youngster get the hint that this guy is well not interested in her for her mind or a relationship
If you go through a situation once and than again why go for number 3?
Again I know she is a kid. I know that is is NOT her fault, but where is the common sense here.

More importantly where in heck are her parents through all this?

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November 5, 2007

susi

By definition statutory rape is “CONSENSUAL” sexual intercourse between a male and a female, one of whom is under the age of consent. All states have varying ages for legal consent, some as young as 13 years of age.

This girl is of legal consenting age in the state of Pennsylvania now according to the police report.

I have to agree with Bay – she met with the person on 3 separate occasions – WHERE WERE HER PARENTS or another RESPONSIBLE ADULT?

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November 6, 2007

kayla

if anyone has any questions about the age of consent in Pennsylvania you should call megan’s law office in Harrisburg they’ll be more then happy to answer any questions as for incorrections on anyone’s comments the age of consent in Pennsylvania is 16 and has not changed.By the way the girl was 14 years old not 15 thank you and please contact megans law chapter and you can find his nice pic on Dead kids of myspace…

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November 6, 2007

Me

I just want to say that where was the parents is a good question. The girl didn’t live with her father and she didn’t see her mom for weeks at a time. To Bay, if you read this… the papers cannot tell the whole story and the girl was first off 14[it says 15 in the report], and other than him being 27, acted as if any boyfriend would. If she asked him to stop he would, but at the same time she really believed she loved him and he loved her. All that matters is she stopped after the last time and he is going to get what he deserves. To Susi, you do need to get facts straight, in what state is the consent age 13? In Virginia and a few other states it is 14 but I believe that is the youngest. In some states it’s 19, in PA it is 16. Some girls don’t even go through puberty by 13, why would the consent age be that? This girl blames herself, but him mostly and that’s how it should be. Can anyone honestly sit there and say that a 14 even 15 year old can make their own decisions especially something like that.They aren’t even grown up yet.She was looking for acceptance. I’m done.

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November 6, 2007

No one

Who knows who many girls this guy has slept with. SICKO, that is all I have to say

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November 7, 2007

no one

Looking at the cache of this guy’s myspace profile since it is now private, I can’t help but wonder what his wife is thinking since it says he is “married” and a “proud parent”.

&lta href=”http://209.85.165.104/search?q=cache:LrRmNZo3kyIJ :www.myspace.com/dlovsirf+www.myspace.com/dlovsirf&amphl=en&ampct=clnk&ampcd=1&ampgl=us” rel=”nofollow”&gtcached profile

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November 7, 2007

Bay

Sorry that comment on I would love to know whole story I was actually meaning that in the sense of my curiosity and nothing more regarding all the facts.
I do know though that many times the press rarely gives the story totally, and without hype and fluff.
I also understand the need to build a case. I would never want a case put in jeopardy. especially one like this that Needs prosecuted to the fullest.
Sorry if I left that open, and unexplained.

So she was yet even younger. UGH
I mean come one who at 14 or even 15 knew what was and was not proper in relationships? Who knew at that age how to handle or react in a relationship when pressed in that manner? Not to mention his skills were likely far better than had she been in a relationship with someone her own age who has not yet learned all the tricks so to speak.
This guy is a experienced Pedophile that shows in how he carried this.
He chose a child with obviously limited parenting. He played the “boyfriend” role to that child hoping to give her love that she obviously was seeking and lacking.
One thing he slipped on though He never imagined this youngster would have a little scruples and would keep saying No Good for her!.
When faced with that repeated NO from her his true colors came out. Unsure if that was due to his determination to get what he wanted or due to the fact he seen he was not even good enough to trick a 14 year old into believing in his game.
I truly hope he gets all they can give him. As far as his wife. She is better off without him being a single Mom is tough believe me I know. In the end though it has to be better than living with this pervert.

As far as his profile. I am almost betting that he likely had other profiles. Other alternate identities.
I always wonder that when reading these stories and we see the main profile. I wonder just how many other profiles, identities, and sadly victims there are that are never heard from.

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November 7, 2007

No name thank you

Bay thank you for that statement. I wish the girl would have thought a little more before even starting a friendship with this man. She was looking for love in the wrong place, thought she found it, but instead was played.

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November 7, 2007

therearemoreofus

to susi,bay,me,no one,and,kayla and no name thank you there are more ,its just a matter of time.that picture is what everyone thinks it is or they are and i feel sorry for them.NOT for HIM but who is in these pictures with him ,he set it on private???????i guess too many threats and guilt could be a good thing(pedophilia)is wrong.

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November 8, 2007

OKAY

I think she is as much to blame as he is. 4 times are you serious? There is only so many times you can use the excuse she was young and stupid. At 14 I knew ever choice I made. I am not with him on this and I don’t agree with ANYTHING he has done. But it is time to get smart and get better guardians since her parents are not in the picture.

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November 8, 2007

WoW

“She was looking for acceptance” Typical excuse. I am sorry but OKAY is right. I think they are pressing charges because they are one minded. She was at fault some what too. I would have understood once or even twice but when you get to 4 times. She knew what was gonna happen. I’m sorry but come on. Better get this child to a safe haven where she can be watched by people who have her interest at heart. Besides her parents and family who really don’t seem to care. If they did care they would have looked after her more and they wouldn’t be here today.

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November 8, 2007

Bay

Sorry I can not agree.
in some ways I can understand the feelings of wanting to blame the child in some of these cases. Even more so after you read some of their pages on Myspace. You see them with profiles that state they are 18 Yet when you read their posts they state they are 14 to 17. You see them posting pictures where they are in clothes that are rather revealing clothes.
As if those are not bad enough you have them actually adding themselves as friends to men’s pages. Some of these guys mind you are old enough to be their fathers.
I honestly can only read short periods because I get a bit peeved.

However even after all that we still have to consider this is still a child. A child mind you that thinks like all the other youngsters her age. You know the Oh that could never happen to me, or the I know it I know all about it, I am too smart to let it happen. All those sayings have been heard from many a pre teen and teen. Heck we even hear them from many of the 19 to 14 year olds.

Now add that teen mentality that to she was being taken advantage of by someone experienced in tricking young people into believing he cared for them. Well I just can not see how we can blame the kid.

In the end it is not her fault that there was no one there in her early years to love and foster proper relationship skills, as well as a proper self image. Had there been actual parenting in this youngsters life she likely would either never have went the first time let alone returned again and again.
This kid obviously latched on to the one that was giving her a bit of what she was seeking. She likely kept a hope inside that this time would be different. That this guy actually cared for her after all unlike all those who were SUPPOSED to care in her life This guy was actually showing her attention.

The only other person with blame other then the pedophile in this case is this kids parents.
Frankly my thoughts on a lot of the cases out here involving this type of situation I feel the parents should in fact get charged for neglect. After all had they been doing their jobs many of these cases would never happen. Not all mind you but a huge handful.Maybe if they were held accountable in more cases they would start doing their darn jobs. Which is being a parent.

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November 8, 2007

Kelsey

God. This guy sounds like such a creep.

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November 9, 2007

another statistic

It is so sad that people sit here and judge parents because some sick m.f. does this to a child. Reality check: some parents don’t stay together. Some single mothers have to work because they have too much pride to sit on their asses and collect a welfare check. God, how many times i wish i could just stay home and watch soaps and let all of you hard working taxpayers support my fat ass! So who watches the children? You are exactly right when you say “Where are the parents?” They are working to try to give their children better lives. They make sacrifices to only get put down in the end again and again. They feel the guilt when something like this happens because they weren’t there. They sometimes get so depressed that work is their only escape. Any other questions?

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November 9, 2007

susi

by the actual news article not just this little clip

1st time she went willingly to his home – got she went to his bedroom &amp she undressed willingly &amp waited for him to come up – she said stop &amp he did

2nd times she said stop &amp he did

3rd time she said stop &amp he did

it only stated they had actual consensual relation 1 time .. on the 4th time ..

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November 9, 2007

Family member that o

I would just like to know how people get off saying that her family obviously doesn’t care! Well I would like to say, she has a very caring family and You do not know us……………….
Her father and mother are 2 very good people, 2 very good parents and 2 very hard workers.Please stop coming down on our family, its not our fault that there are pedifiles in our world, I just hope that you people never have to be in our shoes.

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November 10, 2007

WoW

Yes “another statistic” I do! Where is her family to watch and check up on her. Stop acting like the parents aren’t to blame. Watch your children better. They keep saying she is 14 and can’t make big choices she should not be alone! Yeah single moms work but they should also watch there children. And to the “family member” you guys need to wake up and stop blaming everyone else for something that she was in on. I read the newspaper article online and she knew what was going on there is no way she didn’t. I understand that her parents work and stuff but find someone else to watch her. And like you said “she has a caring family” if that was the case why is she looking for acceptance outside the home when she has all this “love” inside the home. Something about this whole story doesn’t make sense and I hope her family can see that.

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November 10, 2007

no so outside observ

i am not taking sides but i would like all of the adults that are blaming the parents to think back to when you were a teenager. i am quite certain that you did things that your parents were not aware of. And how did you get away with it….you did because your parents trusted you and belived you were where you said you were. So none of you ever went to an underage drinking party, had sex as a teenager in a car, skipped school or experimented with the occasional joint….jee…where were your parents when all of this was going on?? this article says she was looking for acceptance and love..well unfortunately this is something that most teenage girls go thru. I was one of them and my parents were ALWAYS there. at 16 i though it was wonderful that a 21 year old guy was interested in me…ME!! unfortunately he was only interested in one thing. my teenage daughter tell my alot but i am not nieve enough to belive that she tells me EVERYTHING. i have snagged her in a couple of lies trust me. I know that 14 year old girls are very easy to sway and it really doesnt matter if she was willing or not. This guy was old enough to know that being with her is wrong and it was his responsibilty to no let it happen in the first place. the laws are there for a reason. so please, before your crucify someone after reading an artice, please be honest and think back to what you did when you were young then go ask your parents how they never knew what was going on right under their noses. thank you

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November 10, 2007

someone with a BRAIN

First off I would like to just say to all you people who believe it’s the families fault and the girls fault that from that, it sounds like you support this pervert and what he did. It’s a scientific fact that a child and preteen’s brain and thought process IS NOT fully developed until roughly 18. So to blame her is completely ridiculous. I also know that MY family has been and always will be there for me, But there are things in my life that they do not know about it. In my eyes, if you can justify what this “thing” of a man did, than you are no better than him and you obviously support him.I wonder if any of you even have kids, and if you do, would you be ok if he raped your child? well obviously you would. It’s ridiculous, laws and morals have been instilled in us from birth, he’s the acception to this rule and so are all of you who support him. I’f you want sex or a quick lay, go to Wilkes barre or find someone who’s an adult. leave the teens for the teens and stop preying on minors. But in the end when you stand before your creator, thats when real justice will prevail. I hope for his sake if he has kids, they dont grow up to be a sex offender and I hope everyone in this area is aware of him and that he still walks the streets of our neighborhood. I’m sure if he was of color or of lower class he may be judged differently. But when it gets down to it. He’s just another disgusting monster out there like all the other creeps. I just hope you GOOD parents, someday let your kids know the boogie man does exhist.

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November 10, 2007

WoW

Stop throwing a pity party for her! I never said I supported him nor do I. All I am try to say is that it is everyones fault involved. Open your eyes and see the signs. I do have kids and yeah I would be pissed if it happened to my child but it won’t because I AM A GOOD PARENT. Every time I did something wrong when I was young I never got away with it. Because I had good parents and a family thay loved me. Just because I don’t see in the eyes of the cookie cutter world you all live in. Oh he is a pig and it is all his fault. Maybe if girl these days didn’t dress and act like sluts these things wouldn’t happen. Go check out myspace and look at them it is gross. Don’t show it if you don’t want everyone to see it! As for this young lady I guess we will never know the whole story and the truth but she is as guilty as he is.

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November 12, 2007

susi

since this is NOT the first time such a thing has happened in this girls family … i think child services should remove the girl .. there is oviously something wrong.. lack of parental supervision or some other wrong going on that a child is seeking sexual attention at such a young age

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November 13, 2007

WoW

susi.. I agree 100%

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November 14, 2007

OPINIONS MATTER

SHE IS PUT IN A BETTER ENVIROMENT, YOU DONT KNOW ANYTHING…SUPERVISED CONTINUOSLY AND IS OUT OF THAT SITUATION AS FOR SOMEONE SAYING THEY ARE A GOOD PARENT YOU ONLY KNOW THAT WHEN SOMEONE TELLS YOU ..YOU IGNORANT FOOL.THIS IS THE ONLY TIME THAT THIS HAS HAPPENED IN THE FAMILY GET YOUR FACTS STRAIGHT YEAH TAKE THIS PEDOPHILE ‘S SIDE OR MAYBE ITS HIMSELF WRITING THESE MESSAGES EVER THINK OF THAT YOU MORONS.AGE OF CONSENT IS 16 IN PENNSYLVANIA… CALL MEGANS LAW IN HARRISBURG OR YOURE RETARDED AND CANT DIAL A PHONE.GOD KNOWS WHAT HE DID TO HIS OWN SON YEAH THE ONE IN THE PICTURE BECAUSE HE WAS THERE THE FIRST TIME . OH BUT THE PAPER DIDNT SAY THAT DID THEY.BY THE WAY THERE WERE AT LEAST 3 MORE THAT WERE ADULTS THAT ARE CONTACTING THEIR POLICE THIS MOMENT SO SAY WHAT YOU MUST AND READ HIS MYSPACE UNDER general THAT WILL EXPLAIN IT ALL

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November 14, 2007

WoW

OPINIONS MATTER.. I highly doubt this child is somewhere safe she needs to be in protected custody since her “family” is to busy and she is looking for acceptance at 14! As for his myspace yeah it is gross but there is only 1 underage girl there from the past and she has 2 profiles on his page and now one says “M2B” Yeah she is some where safe alright. Even if that is her and if it is her get her to a better place!!!! As for taking the side of this guy you are so wrong! I just feel she knew exactly what she was doing and she needs a better life AWAY from her family. And “OPINIONS MATTER” you must be close to the family to know all this so why don’t you get her help and out of where she is or are you playing into “she is the victim and she so young” BULLSH*T get a clue!

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November 15, 2007

another statistic

hey!wow! evidently you are a friend of the sick m.f. or you wouldn’t get into his profile that’s set to private so let him babysit your kids!!

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November 15, 2007

OPINIONS MATTER

she is away from her family im her caretaker she saught after 24/7 now she is in a better place im not going for name calling cause ya know what are you like 8 years old…i watch her when she is on it and there are blocks on websites if she goes beyond the computer privilege will be taken away permanently …did i answer your questions?you dont know her and you dont know him i know them both and this shouldnt have happened but it did too late and karma is a bitch

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November 15, 2007

OPINIONS MATTER

ps i was not the caretaker when this happened so you cant say shit about me you are very ignorant in this matter so please see your way out of this

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November 15, 2007

WoW

I would love to see how I got into his profile when you go to dead kids of myspace and it is there for you to see JACKASS! And I would love to how how I am being so ignorant in this matter. Just because you and her family are playing into this “she is so innocent” act. You guys are blind to the real world. And at least you are admitting that little miss innocent is pregnant. Please just get her help and away from you! Even if I did know them both I know that she is the dummy that went with him 4 times and each time tried to have sex with her. Please she so knew what was going on. So know that I know that is her I am gonna dig a little deeper to get her help!

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November 18, 2007

Bay

Are you serious? You really believe that good parenting comes from a parent being home all the time?
You also believe a parent is not a good one unless someone tells them that?

I will have you know parenting can be done darn well by many a hard working single Mom. It also does not need to be told to them. Ever hear of that old saying the proof is in the pudding?
Well if the parents are doing their jobs their kids will not have the need to seek out love from everyone who shows them kindness.
This young lady obviously felt a lack of love and belonging in the home and this is why she sought it out. her reasoning for going back likely she was really happy to find someone who seemed like that cared She obviously Felt somewhere that sex equaled love. THANKFULLY somewhere someone did instill some morals in her because she still rethought it and could not take that final step.
She fought with that The wanting of the attention and love and at the same time knowing that she was Not ready and this was not how she wanted to have her first experience (if it was if not than perhaps she knew it was wrong in some other manner age maybe?)
Either way this bothers me most I guess because Yes I was raised by a stay at home mom I also grew up without much of a self image or acceptance. I made MANY wrong choices because of that. I Hate that this young lady Has a little in her to KNOW the difference between right and wrong and I Pray that she finds the acceptance properly I pray she is taken into a home and given the foundation of a self image and learns to love her self for without that you can truly never love another.

And by the way I do in fact totally blame on this jerk who done this. he however was just the standard issue perverted pedophile who knew how to pick those girls like this young lady and like me many years ago who are seeking love and acceptance. The parents blame lies in their Not giving her the support and raising her with the things she needed in life.
Maybe this touches me so much because I never managed to get the break she did in having this perp caught. I was left to deal with it all on my own. Believe me I can truly relate to what she went through. I just Hope she knows that this is not the end and she does have the things it takes to make a life for herself. IF in fact she is pregnant Adoption is a idea maybe than she can go on to live a KIDS life and not have to grow up right away. Yes been there as well.

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November 23, 2007

AkA Jim Stevens

ummm well i dont know what to think. Jon is a friend of mine. Now i dont agree with his actions in this but i will say that she is of legal age of consent in PA and she agreed to have sex. So really there was nothing done wrong in this situation but either way. According to the police report she agreed to have sex with him. When she wanted to stop he did. Same thing happened the 2nd time. The the 3rd and 4th time the report said he sexually assaulted her. HMMM she agreed twice and continued to see him. So this girl must have liked him some what to continue to see him. Then in feb. is when the report said that the last meeting occured. So why did she wait so long to file the police report. IDK i just sorta thing it is a load of shit. But wht ever everyone is entitled to there own opinion. But i still do question is to why she agreed to have sex and continued to see him.

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November 26, 2007

WOW!

JON IS A SCUM BAG PETTY AND I REALLY FEEL SORRY FOR HIS WIFE AND CHILD. THE’LL HAVE TO DRIVE TO THE PRISON TO VISIT ON THE HOLIDAYS WHEN HE’S CONVICTED

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November 26, 2007

Family member that o

Well finally a comment we can agree to…………..
I totally agree on WOW’s last comment

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November 26, 2007

WoW

He is not gonna be convicted of a crime that he was not 100% in. People please wake up to this. 4 times she is either retarted or a gulten for punishment. No 14 year old should be thinking about sex. But people mean to tell me that “oh 4 times lets feel bad for her”. No Way! She is a dumb little girl who should be punished just along with him and she needs to be taken away from her family that dosen’t care that she is running the streets to met him to go have sex with. Because her family thinks thats alright. WAKE UP PEOPLE! Let’s get this girl help.

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November 27, 2007

Real

Hey WoW, you must like little children too, Because no adult in their right mind would even put themselves in his position. Maybe the girl is missing something, BUT it does NOT give a “28” year old man the right to capitalize on it!!!! GET REAL. He is sick in the head!!!! Wouold You feel the same if it were your Daughter??

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November 27, 2007

WoW

Yeah I would mind if were my daughter but I have more brains then to let my 14 year old daughter have a myspace for one. Secondly this type of thing happens everyday GET OVER IT! I don’t undersatnd what you mean about no adult would put themselves in his position. Yeah because he is the only one. If this girl had a good mind to say no then why did it go any further. She should have came and home and told someone. But no she let it happen 3 or more other times. Get real! I am NOT saying what he did is right but she needs to have ownership in it too. 4 times is just stupid on her behalf. It just shocks me how her family sees nothing wrong with this and never questions how it happened 4 times and still think that she is innocent. As for love little kids yeah I do I have 2 of my own. Aren’t they great :o) I am smart enough to keep them safe when will other people learn?

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December 6, 2007

OH MY

I had a chance to look at his my space site. My gosh he seems perverted even when he is talking about himself. Maybe he should seek counseling for the sexual problems. If that is his son in his my space pic what will happen when his son is fourteen and bringing home a girlfriend. It says he is married will his wife be able to trust him?
Will he be a convicted sexual predator in the state of Pa? I am not sure of the laws in that state. I hope that justice is served and the young girl spoken of here is able to develop self worth.

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December 12, 2007

Real

Looks like he’s going to plead guilty. Seems Like an air tight case against him!!!! You know that in other countries they would chop off his balls, JUSTICE SERVED!!!!

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December 13, 2007

susi

WOW – well you obviously aint doing a good job of your care taking … seems she posted on her myspace she is pregnant now ….

cant be by this one that she is accusing since the due date would be way off if she hasnt had contact with him since pressing charges …

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December 13, 2007

WoW

As for being pregnant by this Jon person. Your guess is as good as mine. Who every is taking care of her isn’t doing a very good job are they now?

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December 13, 2007

Family member that o

I cant wait for it to happen in your family someday…………. Then we will keep coming on here downgrading your family and get our kicks out of it, Grow the heck up already

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December 13, 2007

Real

First of all, that is totally uncalled for, to say I hope it happens to you. Second of all, I dont think anyone is standing up for the peddy, but it seems in light of what happened, the “family” would be keeping a closer eye on her. Now she is going to be no more than a statisic and probably on some type of assistance. So now it becomes everyones problem, who pays taxes!!! Not the way I would want my children to start out.. And sorry to say this, but in this instance, I BLAME THE FAMILY!!!

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December 13, 2007

WoW

Thank You Real! It is about time someone else see the truth. As for her family member.. wow ” I hope this happens to your family” what a great person this is. I blame the family for not watching her and letting her date or see someone and get pregnant. I hope no one else in that family has kids. If they do I hope they will stay away from “Family member that obviously does care” because they are just as messed up. This whole family needs help.

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December 14, 2007

OH MY

Once again I feel sorry for the wife. Not only does she have to face the fact the husband was a cheat, but with a young girl. As far as the young girl goes she seems to be missing something in her life due to her continued Promiscuity. Whether the family gave all the love they possibly could to this girl. Something is still missing….In these times the young girl should not only be concerned about getting pregnant, but disease. This young girl needs to seek counseling to regain respect for herself and her body. Predators find young girls that are in search of “feeling wonderful and needed”. To the comment of I hope this happens in your family. That would mean that another young child would be hurt. Would you want that just so you could get the last laugh. Looking at your situation I would want people to learn from this to maybe protect there family and someday get rid of sites like these. Maybe stop blamming everyone else and just concentrate on the girl and getting her help.

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December 21, 2007

SANTA CLAUS

This person is not so much a young girl anymore. People don’t need to be digging up dirt on her. She doesn’t need to be put in someone else’s care. This “mycrimespace” is more rediculous than myspace.

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December 22, 2007

OH MY

I am sorry. Not so much a young girl anymore? What is she 15 or 16 years old. I Thought 18 was an adult! I consider her a young girl. I don’t think anyone was digging up dirt on her. I am just saying she was manipulated by an adult man.

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December 22, 2007

Real

+1 OH MY…
The truth hurts doesnt it Santa? No one is putting her down, its just that her family is apparently not doing a good job watching her after the fact..15 and pregnant DOES NOT = good parenting!!!! That = another statistic!!!
And again, im not for the peddi either…

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December 22, 2007

Bay

Why did someone not get this young lady on the Pill or the shot or some type Birth control right after this happened?
Why was she allowed to continue to roam around without anyone knowing what in heck she was doing and who she was doing it with?
Once is a mistake a bad one but a mistake that should have opened the family’s eyes This is a total screw up on their part.
Honestly best thing for that baby is adoption and best thing for her is a new life with a family who will get her into the counseling she needs and give her the attention and love she needs and help her work on her self esteem and self image which all seem to be lacking horribly if these are the choices she is making.

As for the family member who stated they hope it happens to someone else. That is just a small glimpse and scary glimpse into the family dynamic this child was raised in.
That coupled with the rant about parents not being able to parent and work makes me wonder does this kid have any chance at all. After all I know many parents who work and go to school but still parent their kids. No one ever said parenting is easy. It is a job and a half but No one forced anyone to become a parent That is something people need to start taking into consideration.

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February 7, 2008

hello hello

Any update to the sentencing of this guy? How the girl doing?

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February 18, 2008

*yawn*

Last I heard from myspace she is married and pregnant. Go figure! As for him there is nothing new. Her family is so screwed up it is not even funny.

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February 19, 2008

Laurie

We all need a lesson on what a pedophile is. A pedophile goes after ‘children’. To me, that means children way below the age of 14. Oh that is right, we have laws that say 14 year olds are ‘children’. We also have laws that say parents are supposed to protect their kids and are responsible for their behavior.

Sure, some kids will get hurt even with the best of parents. But, if we allow kids to have exposure and opportunity, well then, who is to blame? And, why is blame so important????

In my mind, we are all to blame.

Is blame important because we have to punish and serve consequences, so therefore, we must have blame?

We all know, supposedly, that consequences do not deter pedophiles, true pedophiles. A pedophile IS NOT a 20 something guy trying to have a relationship with a nubile young girl.

A pedophile is not attracted to nor does he/she have adult relationships. A PEDOPHILE PREFERS CHILDREN. LITTLE CHILDREN.

That is not the case here. Granted, he is a sex offender, but that is different from a pedophile. There are many different types of offenders. But, as usual, we are angry and our gut reaction is to call all sex offenders pedophiles. So then we wonder why nothing changes, because we cannot distinguish from one type of offender to another, and have no idea how to truly protect our kids because we don’t know what the heck we are talking about.

It is also a proven, scientific fact, that most young adults do not even have the brain capacity to determine serious consequences until they are almost 30 years old.

This 14 year old should be monitored. At least the guy had the presence of mind to stop, at least the first few times…why did she keep meeting him????

Yes – the typical reasons why – she’s lonely, likes the excitement, needs validation whatever. And, what is his excuse? He is just stupid?

This young woman will need a lot of help and support. Let’s hope she gets it before something worse happens to her from her bad choices because she is young and uneducated.

Maybe the Mom should have stayed home on her butt as she calls it, and collected welfare. But, I don’t think that would have helped, especially if she thought staying home with her kids meant sitting on her butt.

And, just because error is noted on what the girl did, and what her parents did not do, does not mean everyone ‘loves’ the offender, or is defending him.

Until we can look at ourselves in the mirror, we cannot see others as they truly are. Everyone makes mistakes, some more serious than others.

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February 19, 2008

Laurie

I have 2 grand-daughters, one age 12 and one age 11.

When I look at them, and think about guys like this it makes me want to puke..makes me want to destroy the guy.

This young girl has to be totally confused at this point. She really needs help and guidance, maybe there are organizations that foster positive activities in the local community? Volunteer work?

That can be very difficult if you are the only parent.

Young girls find sex so powerful, they have no idea what the real consequences are. It is a different world today. We have predators coming in our homes, and we don’t even know it. Hindsight in a situation like this is better than 20/20. How would any parent know, unless they are warned, that their child could become a victim like this? Most parents do the best they can, and it works.

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February 19, 2008

Laurie

On another note, I was reading an article a few moments ago, on holding youth accountable for crime, ages as early as 14. Is this another oxymoron? Old enough to hold accountable for crimes, but not sex?
http://www.thenation.com/doc/20080218/minors

Very interesting….

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February 19, 2008

WOW!

WELL LAURIE, SEEMS LIKE YOU ARE QUITE AN ACTIVIST FOR THIS SCUM BAG, IN ONE STATEMENT YOU SAY HE IS NOT A PETTY, AND WE SHOULD OBVIOUSLY GIVE HIM SOME SLACK, THE NEXT, IS YOU HAVE CHILDREN AND HE MAKES YOU PUKE. YOU SEEM PRETTY MENTALY UNSTABLE TO ME AND THIS IS WHY WE HAVE LAWS TO PROTECT CHILDREN.. YES AT 14 YOU ARE CONSIDERED A CHILD, THIS IS WHY IF YOU ARE 28 YEARS OLD YOU SHOULD KNOW BETTER, OR AT LEAST THINK, THIS IS ILLEGAL TO HAVE SEX WITH A MINOR. THIS SEEMS PRETTY SIMPLE TO ME, SHE IS A CHILD THAT NEEDS ACCEPTANCE ANY WAY POSSIBLE, THIS GIRL NEEDS ALOT OF HELP, JON NEEDS A COUPLE YEARS BEHIND BARS, AND YOU CAN VISIT HIM THERE LAURIE.

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February 20, 2008

Laurie

WOW – thank you. I am an activist.

But, you need to re-read what I wrote. We, every single one of us, is responsible for this type of crime. Our society shoves sex in our faces, and then if someone takes advantage of it, oh well, off to jail you go. And yet we offer not type of education on this subject, and what exactly is right or wrong.

This family and the young girl has some accountability – especially the parents. Hind sight is 20/20.

This man does not seek out little children, he had sex with a 14 year old and that is not a pedophile. He should be punished for his crime. All sex offenders need treatment and consequences.

A 14 year old, which in many states is considered to be capable of, and can be held accountable for, adult crimes, does know the difference between right and wrong.

We can’t have it both ways. But, there you go, because in this United States, we do.

It is my belief that it does depend on the 14 year old and the circumstances.

But the law is the law….and until we make changes to look at each case individually, all will be charged in one group. Too bad for us. And, I try to educate people on the subtleties of these types of crimes, because a sex offender does not a pedophile make. And asking questions and pointing out what each one of us needs to do differently, does not make a defense.

Too bad this young girl did not know what she was doing was a crime…..

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February 20, 2008

Dan

Pedophila is an attraction to prepubescent children. Ephebephilia is an attraction to adolescent children. Both take a thrill from power over someone vulnerable. Both require a kid to be coaxed by a dominant person.

You can talk a teen into hooking up by playing on his or her desires: offer True Love, celebrate edgy daredevil behavior, etc.

Most kids I’ve ever talked to assure me they were flat out crazy when they were13, 14, 15, and 16, only started to pull out of the fog around 17. The strange and rapidly changing hormones, the confusion, the pressure, the emotional turmoil and intensity. Teens are not capable, so we must protect them enough that their mistakes are not damagining, as in having sexual contact with a grown man.

I wholeheartedly agree about our culture’s message about teens, both to them and adults. They are encouraged to be girls-gone-wild/boi dawgs. And to adults they are raised as the epitome of sexual perfection. It’s sick. But it’s no excuse.

I might see a Godiva Chocolate billboard on my way home. Tsk, tsk, Godiva, chocolate can clog my arteries and make me fat. Still, I might come up with a bunch of justifications to permit myself to snarf down a box of ’em. My choice, curse Godiva though I may. I might see a jeans billboard on the way home with a coquettish teen giving me her best comehither. If I decide to start up a flirtation with a teen girl, wrap myself up in justifications to permit myself that action, I’ve decided to prey on someone vulnerable.

We protect our weak. People must have some idea of how confused teens are.

Normal, healthy men do not want to get with teen girls. It’s icky. Girls are childish even when they think they are flaunting grade A sophistication. Yes, they’re pretty. So what? They are not our consumables.

This guy was a straight up pig. Also, he is a criminal predator. But no, not a pedophile.

Labels are important. Pedophile is not synonymous with predator. Pedophilia is a disorder. Some pedophiles contort their lives that they might never encounter a child alone, such is their revulsion at the desire they might feel. Predator is a worse word than pedophile.

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February 22, 2008

WOW!

O.K. DAN , I WILL AGREE WITH THE FACT THIS MOLE ON THE ASS OF SOCIETY IS A SEXUAL PREDATOR, AND SHOULD BE TREATED AS SUCH, NOT OH MY, HE WAS SUCH A GOOD NEIGHBOR OR SUCH, BOTTOM LINE… HE IS A SICK SCUM BAG, WHO PREYS ON YOUNG GIRLS, HE NEEDS SOME TIME IN SING SING.

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February 22, 2008

WOW!

I WONDER HOW PROUD HIS PARENTS, WIFE, AND CHILD ARE OF HIM, OF COURSE YOU KNOW HE TOLD THEM ALL ” I DIDN’T DO ANYTHING LIKE THAT ” THIS GIRL MUST BE A ASPIRING NOVELIST.

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February 26, 2008

Confused

I like ponies!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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April 19, 2008

amanda

Everyone who is blaming her and her family are stupid. She was 14 when this happened, and he was 27. That’s disgusting. He should have known better than to do something like that. And she is not stupid, mentally unstable, or whatever else you are calling her. I am a friend of hers, I should know. And what does it matter if she is pregnant? Her life NOW has absolutely nothing to do with what happened when she was 14. So stop talking about how she is pregnant, because there is no reason at all to even bring that up. As for the people who are taking sides with him, are you on drugs?! How could you even think that she is to blame?

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May 5, 2008

nuts

I don’t feel that she is to blame. I feel that he knew exactly what he was doing. To repeatedly see this young girl and ask her to do things with him! Did the courts find him guilty?

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May 9, 2008

picklejuice

“Her life NOW has absolutely nothing to do with what happened when she was 14. So stop talking about how she is pregnant, because there is no reason at all to even bring that up.”

oh c’mon!!! how can you say it has nothing to do with it?!?!?! She is only 16 now, pregnant and married! please her sister did the same thing got married and had kids so she probably thinks she would sucker him into doing the same thing! they are white trash and will always be white trash!!! even if this did happen it was supposedly consensual does anyone get that??? im sorry but at 14 you know what you are doing, you are in highschool and there are kids out there doing it alot younger then that. don’t put the blame on the guy she is as guilty as he is if it did happen. age is nothing but a number.

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May 21, 2008

Who knows

Well if age is nothing but a number then we should just change the age of consent in pennsylvania to 12 or 13, since kids are doing it even younger these days and apparently know what they are doing. So when your preteen or barely teenage son or daughter loses their virginity to someone that much older or even the same age, remember they know the consequences and were ready for it.

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May 23, 2008

picklejuice

Thats where the parents come in! The correct way to parent would to let their kids know the consequences of being sexually active. We don’t give kids enough credit, they are alot smarter then we think they are. We were all that age once we know how it is, even being older people could be “persuaded” you make your own choices. She made the choice to get married at 16, is that ok???? and have a baby is that ok???

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May 23, 2008

amanda

Yeah it is ok for her to be married. And it is ok to have a baby. what he did was not ok.

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May 24, 2008

kayla

oh i see Picklejuice you know her family and you know her sister then u would know that her sister graduated from high school and is Not on public assistance like yourself ,owns her home,and has a career.So please explain to me what “white trash is ” so we can determine your definition please i would love to hear this

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May 25, 2008

Laurie

Amanda – funny – it’s okay for her to be pregnant and married at the age of 16???

What???? Seems from what I have read, if the sister has done the same thing, (meaning pregnant at an early age and married), that there definitely should have been some serious intervention in that family.

You just don’t get it do you? And then we wonder why this type of crime keeps happening? It is definitely the guys responsibility, but the parents of these girls share responsibility as well. Too bad for all involved – their futures are etched in stone. It will be interesting to see what happens with these young girls children – I wonder if the children will marry young, and start having sex at the age of 9. Or maybe the family should all have sex with each other?? Oh – that too is against the law – but so what, it seems that anything goes. Hmmm….what do you think?

Kayla – being on public assistance is no crime and nothing to be ashamed of. Many people need help from time to time. Especially in today’s economy. That is what food stamps and medicaid are meant for. Taking advantage of the system is another thing entirely.

White trash to me means they have no purpose on this earth other than to destroy and live their life according to what the media (Britney Spears, Paris Hilton, and others) and consumerism dictates (buy this cheap junk so you fit in), sit back drink a couple of beers, let the woman folk take care of the men *belch* – meaning they do not serve to do good, offer any type of service back to the community they live in, take care of themselves and their families, and teach their children what it means to be respectful of themselves and others and how to take care of personal possessions and relationships.

To bring this all back to the actual subject matter on this particular blog – where the heck were the girls parents? I suppose they were teaching their girls to appreciate life, and that is why they had sex at such a young age?

This guy needs consequences and the young girl needs guidance. After reading some of the comments, it seems it is pretty scary out there. Especially when this behavior is condoned and people do not even see why it is not good. WOW!!!!

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May 27, 2008

WOW!

WELL PICKLEJUICE, OBVIOUSLY YOUR ABOUT AS SMART AS A PICKLE, ANY WAY YOU LOOK AT IT IF HE WAS 27 AND SHE WAS 14 THE ADULT SHOULD BE THE ONE TO KNOW BEETER THAN TO HAVE SEX WITH A CHILD, YOU PICKLEJUICE ARE A FUCKING MORON!!!!!!

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May 27, 2008

picklejuice

Owns her own house?? you mean the trailer on her grandparents land?!?!? her career? you mean the “cleaning” she was doing once a month for her BMW?? Or the “Trips” she goes on with some guy for a week at a time as his “personal masseuse”, and makes a bunch of money…wonder what she’s doing to make all that money.

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May 27, 2008

kayla

dear old picklejuice, as for her sister (the one that lives in the “trailer” she never owned that her grandparents did and she dont live there anymore!!she had bought a house, and she dont go on trips!she works at a funeral home ,you idiot!and yeah she still got the car it seems she’s doing well….obviously she was talking to you last year when all of this crap happened so why havent you been updated with her life ?and how do you Not know what she is doing now?tell you what get a life.oh i know why either this is “him” what’s the matter not working at dish anymore?got fired for sexual harrassment yes i do know …you better know the facts because if this isnt him than whoever this is they do not associate with anymore thank god …and yes her “sister is getting help”, so now do you feel better maybe she will do fine for herself and not suck money out of this economy as for the white trash statement and public assistance their family does not need it….so why should they be on it “that is what white trash is to me”but hey everyone’s got their own opinions so i’ll give you mine on this subject this is the case of a serial cheater and god do i pray for his wife she’s great but i hope she dont believe him and as for the girl she was the husbands mistress he should’ve picked someone a little older though i do admit , but he knew her through people he knew got her alone and knew how to meet her and talk to her when she was alone i guess he didnt have alot of friends but he will soon enough when he is not living at home by the way “him” and “her” families probably do have problems.and another thing this whole forum or comment site is about “him”and “her” so why butt into her familys life anyway and What the hell does this have to do with her sister?

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May 27, 2008

Trench

Ok, I’ve let this go on long enough. You can’t behave like adults so I’m shutting the thread down.

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