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Not bullying but parenting

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Commentary – It isn’t bullying, stupid, it’s the parenting:

Here we have another editorial about school shooters and would be shooters that pretty much says the same thing that I’ve been saying for years. The post mainly focuses on would be shooter Dillon Cossey…

His parents supplied him with real weapons — though no ammo — to match his fantasies: His bedroom contained a .9 mm semiautomatic rifle, homemade grenades, knives and swords. He also had a swastika flag, neo-Nazi literature and a Columbine massacre video.

Classmates would have rejected Cossey, if he’d stayed in school. They would have told Dillon he’s crazy, which would have been useful feedback. Instead, he was nurtured, accepted and loved by the world’s dopiest parents.

While I fully support homeschooling, not every parent is capable of carrying it out. Such is the case of the Cosseys.

And as I’ve been saying for many years lax parenting is the biggest cause of school shootings and not bullying. When parents teach their kids about some fantasy world where life is fair and allow their kids to continue to have obsessions with other killers and allow it to remain unchecked these shootings will keep happening.

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    Cal

    Bullying and/or abuse/harassment, etc can only influence and/or “cause” (and I use that term loosely) people to feel a certain way if they choose to drink that poison. Even if it’s severely physical, you either press charges immediately or you “run away” but if you choose to “run away” I guarantee you will get your ass kicked every day for the rest of your life simply because by not responding immediately you’ve made yourself an easy target. You’re telling the bullies of the world, “Hey! Come and get me! I’m not going to fight back and I’m not going to press charges! I’m just going to cower in the corner!”

    Abuse can be a contributing factor in a person’s emotional state, before the decision is made to kill. But parents who do not teach their children how to cope with those feelings of anger allow that anger to grow into resent and then a lust for revenge. The lack of coping skills is what enables people to so easily decide to kill. “Why solve my problems peaecfully when I can just kill them all? That way I don’t have to talk about it. That way no one can blame me for doing anything wrong.” etc.

    I can’t stress this enough, and I will say it again to anyone reading this blog:

    Kids and adults with healthy and productive coping skills do not murder in retaliation no matter what is done to them. School shooters and their abusers are all bullies of some sort who lack coping skills. Therefore, preventing school violence consists of a lifelong curriculum of healthy coping skills. And that begins at home and continues into school.

    If you are involved in your child’s life and you guide them and teach them self-respect, help them develop self-esteem and confidence, they won’t be the type of kid who gets relentlessly picked on. But I guess that all depends on how stable the parents are. I’m not holding my breath.

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