Desperate Neb. Mom threatens kid with safe haven

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I apologize for being behind on the news. This article came out Thursday and it talks about a Nebraska mother who was so desperate with what to do with her 13-year-old son that she was thinking about dropping him off at a safe haven.

In the article, the woman states that her son beat up a handicapped student, steals, smokes pot, beats up siblings, and could possibly be sexually assaulting another child.

Personally, I think that this kid has gone beyond safe haven and needs a stay at least in juvenile correction. But let me ask you the reader, do you think this woman dropped the ball somewhere along the line and what should she do?

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9 responses to “Desperate Neb. Mom threatens kid with safe haven”

November 23, 2008

A

First, sterilize her. Then take the boy and put him someplace safe from her, so he can learn and grow.

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November 24, 2008

Crow

The mother needs to get the kid into some help, not just dump him off on the state when he becomes “too much” He GOT that way because she didnt do her job and she needs to step to the plate and take care of her kid, not chicken shit out because she’s too much of a damn coward.

No takey easy way out, Mommy, time to be a parent.

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November 24, 2008

Tietsu

We all have craptastic parts in our childhood. Most of us still turn out funcuational, both the mother and son are to blame and should both me sterilized. Beat the kid. Beat him until he learns. It worked for me and my siblings.

Time to grow up, and yes sometimes that hurts.

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November 24, 2008

Ihavekidstoo

What a dolt. What an utter moron this woman is. She doesn’t know what else to do? How about staring with doing SOMETHING other than whining about it? Take away his video games, his skateboard, internet, phone priveleges and all the other material stuff that parents these days use to get out of having to pay attention to and give real love to their kids. Lock him in his room. Beat the bejeezus out of him. And the whole time, repeat to him like a mantra: “I love you, but I don’t like your behavior. I’m going to help you change and be a happier person.” So that he knows she really does care about him and is NOT going to dump him off on someone else like a litter of puppies that she doesn’t want.

Doesn’t know where to turn? Cripes there are SO many place that will help her. Maybe she should start by going to church and dragging him and his four siblings along. And for god’s sake use birth control so that she doesn’t have any MORE kids to add to the chaos.

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November 24, 2008

Kathy

I’ve seen very good parents have troublesome kids. We don’t know this mother’s story. She obviously was at her wits end. The child needs pyschiatric evaluation and help. There could be a chemical imbalance causing sociopathic behavior.

ihavekidstoo… I’m chuckling because I can imagine your response had the story said “mother in trouble for beating the bejeezus out of son” without saying why. Come on… you know you’d think she was treating that poor child terribly.

We don’t know that anyone is at fault for this kid’s behavior because the article doesn’t provide enough information. I get the impression that she has tried to get help for him. She talks about agencies and contacts that she has made. She states that she’s gets lots of “I understands” from these systems without any real help.

If this kid truly is sociopathic, beating the bejeezus out of him probably isn’t going to help. And, if he’s so messed up she finds him standing over her in the middle of the night (she states in the article that she’s afraid), then what’s going to stop him from beating her to death? She says she’s made mistakes. Who hasn’t??? Let him who is without sin cast the first stone… I, too, would have to drop my stone on the ground and walk away. I am NOT perfect, either.

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November 24, 2008

Soobs

Kathy, I agree with your post. I know how difficult it is to get “agencies” interested in a “problem child”…at least until something criminal happens. Even psychiatric care can be difficult.

I don’t know what I’d do. I do think, however, I wouldn’t rest if I felt threatened or felt the rest of my kids were threatened.

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November 24, 2008

Ihavekidstoo

I’ve also seen “good” parents wind up with “bad” kids – in my own family, as a matter of fact. The parents were good people, kind and loving, but total failures at disciplining their son. They were, however, TOTALLY on board with disciplining their daughter. While the boy was allowed every liberty while growing up, they kept a very tight rein on their daughter. The result — SHE has made a success of her life while her brother is an utter failure who sponged off his parents until they day they died.

So good people can have crappy parenting skills. And unless there’s some kind of brain damage involved — or true sociopathy, which is very rare — a rotten kid is the direct result of a lack of discpline, direction and/or love.

I will admit I’d question her parenting if I read an article that said she whopped the tar out of him without giving a reason. But then, if she DID apply adequate discpline now and then, maybe we wouldn’t be reading about her at all.

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February 27, 2009

Angel

From Experience, most of the time, parents do all they can to raise children right. Kids have a tendency to rebel. My brother is getting to the point where theres no other option than to not care. WE live with my grandparents and weve all been raised the same way, hes a year younger than me and the 7 other children all behave when were supposed to and know whats right. Hes the only one whos constantly in trouble, he can even behave in an alternative school. so before you blame the parents for not doing there job, think about how the kids rebel so much, and do things despite what they know is right.

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February 27, 2009

Angel

sorry he cant* behave in an alternative school.

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